Photography’s hidden benefits!

Written by: Glyn Dewis

Published: June 17, 2010

Category: General

A few weeks back I was asked if I would consider photographing the Wedding of two very special friends of a past client.
Now, not being a Wedding Photographer my initial thoughts were to decline but having heard a brief story about the couple concerned, I found myself wanting to know more; that’s when I met up with Derek & Dorothy.

Being a Photographer I get to meet and work with all sorts of interesting people…all with a story to tell,  but meeting up with Derek & Dorothy has stopped me dead in my tracks and moved me emotionally on more than one occasion; allow me to briefly explain why…

Derek & Dorothy met just under 3 years ago and have both been in long term married relationships before; Dorothy’s marriage ending in divorce after some 50 years and Derek’s wife Irene sadly passing away after some 55 years of wonderful, happy marriage. As well as being two of the sweetest people I have ever met, it’s sitting down and talking with them (something I could do for hours believe me) that has moved me so much. What I find ‘beautiful’ about their relationship is how they are so open and honest with each other and talk with fondness about their past.

Coming from a family where my parents got divorced when I was very young and seeing what holding on to ‘resentment’ can do to people, I initially found it a little uncomfortable how Derek spoke openly and with emotion about his wife Irene of 55 years, thinking how Dorothy may feel hearing it, but I needn’t have felt that way:

“We all have our past and if we hadn’t had the things happen in our lives that have,
then me and Derek may never have met and be together now”

Hearing Dorothy say that was so incredibly moving but more so was when Derek relayed to me what Dorothy had said to him some time before…

“If I could have met you all those years ago I would gladly swap places with Irene to have had the life with you that she had.”

I ask you…does it get any better than that? Generally I can deal with most things but hearing those words and thinking, really thinking what Dorothy means by saying that has nearly brought me to tears on several occasions and that I’m not afraid or embarrassed to admit.

I have a lot to thank Photography for but apart from the obvious, one ‘benefit’ I never considered at first was the people I would meet along the way. Ranking high in the people I feel privileged to have met are Derek & Dorothy; two people who to me, epitomise what relationships are all about: Dedication, Devotion and Love that knows no bounds.

Derek and Dorothy are to show to the world their devotion to each other and become husband and wife on the 26th June 2010 and I’m extremely honoured to be the one capturing this very special day, and rest assured I’ll be sharing some of the photographs here on the blog.

It would be wonderful if you could take a moment and leave a message for Derek and Dorothy here in the comments section, and should you wish to I’ll make sure that they get to see each and every one.

Thanks for looking in 🙂

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38 Comments

  1. Robert Price

    Wow! Great story and great pics!
    I’m so happy for you both!

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    • Glyn

      @Robert Price…Thanks so much for the kind words; I’ll definitely pass them on 🙂

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  2. graham blouin

    Great character black and white picture of Derek, Glyn. The thing about older faces is that they have such interesting tales to tell.

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    • Glyn

      @Graham…Thanks for the comments Graham and yeah I agree, Derek’s face was just perfect for this kind of portrait.

      Cheers, Glyn

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  3. Noel

    What a lovely story Glyn, and what a wonderful benefit Photography is to all our lives… and a big congratulations to Derek and Dorothy and the best of luck on your big day…

    All the best
    Noel

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    • Glyn

      @Noel…Totally agree with you Noel as without photography there are so many wonderful people (yourself included) that I would never have had the privilege of meeting.
      Cheers,
      Glyn

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  4. Mike

    A lovely story that proves you can find love at any stage in your life. I wish them both every happiness for the future and my heartiest congratulations.

    I’d also like to add, what beautiful photographs, especially the black and white portrait of Derek. Really wonderful work, Glyn.

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    • Glyn

      @Mike…Thank you so much for your kind words Mike; I’ll be sure to pass them on to Derek & Dorothy. Thanks too for the comments re the photographs…very kind.
      Regards, Glyn 🙂

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  5. Keith Hammond

    What a lovely story Glyn, thats love. Many many congratulations to you Derek & Dorothy. It’s easy to see how happy you are together in Glyn’s photos, a really nice set that i’m sure you both love.

    The reason i love shooting weddings with a passion is because it is such a special day and i’m helping to make memories for people…….and it’s in the contract we get wedding cake 🙂

    I’m looking forward to seeing the wedding photos.
    Best Wishes
    Keith

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    • Glyn

      @Keith…Cheers Keith, very kind and I’ll make sure Derek & Dorothy receive your congratulations.
      Cheers,
      Glyn

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  6. Kategraphy

    Hey,

    wow! I’m flashed! The pictures are great and their story is faszinating! Thank you very much for sharing this!

    Best Wishes,

    Kate

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    • Glyn

      @Kate…You’re welcome; thanks to you for taking the time to comment 🙂

      Best wishes,
      Glyn

      ps> Thanks to for the message about my German translation; could have been alot worse I guess…lol 🙂

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  7. Ed Harris

    Wow what an incredibly moving story. Something we can all learn from I think. All the very best to Derek and Dorothy as they embark on their married love together. May they have many years of happiness together. And I KNOW they will have some very special pictures to look back on because they have the TOP MAN doing the job. Best wishes Ed xx

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    • Glyn

      @Ed…Very kind 🙂 Thanks for the kind words and I’ll be sure to pass on your message to Derek & Dorothy.
      See you soon,
      Glyn

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  8. Dan Davies

    A very open and moving post Glyn, both for what it reveals of yourself and of your subjects. Bravo!

    Getting to know the people I photograph has always been one of the joys of my profession – everyone has a story and there’s always value in hearing them.

    Congratulations to the lovebirds – although only a slip of a lad (honest!) my second marriage is infinitely better than my first, but had my wife and I not each had the xx years of life & experience, then we’d never have met and even if we did, we’d not have taken a second glance at each other. We’re all the products of our experiences and it seems the experiences that Derek and Dorothy have been through have turned them into fabulous partners for each other. I wish them a long and happy marriage and can’t wait to see their wedding photos – Glyn, I know you’ll do them justice.

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    • Glyn

      @Dan…Thank you so much for taking the time to add such a reply; very kind and yeah I totally agree with you about one of the joys of our profession being the people we get to meet.

      All the best to you and hopefully catch up soon,
      Cheers,
      Glyn 🙂

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  9. Alex

    Glyn we have not met but we will on the 26th!

    You have managed to capture the essence of the wonderful relationship that my mum Dorothy and step dad to be Derek have together. My favorite photograph is the one on the left, they are together, close, laughing and enjoying what is – its a look they share often and one I look forward to seeing many times in the future!

    Looking forward to meeting you
    Alex

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    • Glyn

      @Alex…Thank you so much for stopping by and commenting.

      I mean it 100% when I say that both Derek & Dorothy are two of the nicest people I have ever met. I’m really looking forward to capturing their day on the 26th and also meeting up with yourself.

      Best wishes and I’ll see you soon,
      Glyn

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  10. Paul Pratt

    Glyn, first of all the photo’s are wonderful. Now, Dorothy…and I’m talking directly to you, that is the strongest statement of love I have ever heard and you knocked me off my seat with that one!

    All the best for the future to you both.

    Paul

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    • Glyn

      @Paul…Cheers for the comment about the photos and I’ll make sure to pass on your words to Dorothy & Derek.

      Glyn 🙂

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  11. Mike

    What an amazing story mate.

    The pictures are absolutely fantastic. Such a mix or shots too – well done!!!

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  12. Raleigh

    Derek & Dorthy,

    You are so lucky and an inspiration to me. I have been searching for that very same thing for the last 20 years and have yet to discover it. Many people don’t realize what a blessing it is to have someone love you as much as you do them. Best of luck in all you do.

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    • Glyn

      @Raleigh…Thanks for taking the time to comment; I’ll definitely pass on your words.

      Regards, Glyn

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  13. kelley

    Glyn,
    Thank you so much for posting this. What a beautiful story. I find that life and the storms we endure can make us tired and hard or we can surrender to it and become soft and loving and accepting, appreciating what it has taught us and what blessings it brings us. I am truly blessed by the example of Dorothy and Derek’s story of love.

    Give them my well wishes and God bless them both with second chances. Having those in love are very special and extremely rare.

    Glyn, enjoy the day of capturing their wedding, I can barely wait to see the photos!

    PS thanks for the morning cry…

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    • Glyn

      @Kelley…I will definitely give them your ‘bet wishes’…that’s for sure. Thanks for taking the time to comment and I hope the tears were only short lived 🙂

      All the very best to you,
      Glyn

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  14. David Kelly

    Hi ya Glyn – thanks for sharing this lovely story.
    In my voluntary work as a bereavement counsellor I encounter people who’ve been through similar loses to Derek and I can only empathise with how he may have felt during that period. It’s reassuring to know that happiness can be found again after the end of such long relationships and that love strikes again at all ages of life.

    Best wishes to Derek & Dorothy for the big day and their future as husband & wife! I know you’ll given them a beautiful set of images from the day to treasure.

    Regards,

    David

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    • Glyn

      @David Kelly…People who volunteer as Bereavement Counsellors in my eyes are worth their weight in gold so good on you!!!
      I’ll make sure Dorothy & Derek get your message and thanks too for the kind words about the photos.

      Best wishes,
      Glyn

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  15. kelley

    Glyn, tears of joy, beautiful post.

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    • Glyn

      @Kelley…Glad to hear it…thank you 🙂

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  16. Shirley

    Hi Glyn – we too will met on Saturday. Derek is wonderful man who had a special lady for 55 years, and has been lucky enough to find a second special relationship with Dorothy. Two lovely people who deserve the very best. You have captured all this in words but more especially in your pictures. I mirror Alex’s favourite and I look forward to seeing pictures of the big day!

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    • Glyn

      @Shirley…Two Lovely People…I couldn’t agree with you more 🙂
      Look forward to seeing you on Saturday,
      Bye for now,
      Glyn

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  17. Heather

    Hi, Just wanted to say the photos of my mum and Derek are really lovely and I am sure the wedding photos will be fabulous. Have a wonderful day on Saturday and of course we will see you there.

    Regards,

    Heather, Steve and Chris x

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    • Glyn

      @Heather…Thank you so much for stopping by Heather and leaving a message. It’s real nice of you to write the kind words and yeah I look forward to meeting you on Saturday.
      All the best to you,
      Glyn 🙂

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  18. Rachel

    Dorothy – you look fabulous! and you and Derek look so happy and comfortable together. You are very fortunate to have found each other and Kerry and I wish you wonderful times together.

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  19. Dave T

    Hi Glyn,

    Nice story.

    For me photographing weddings is so much more rewarding when there is a connection between myself and the clients. Its clear from the images you have posted that Derek & Dorothy are relaxed with you and that you have established a good connection already – that bodes well for the wedding day.

    Hope you all have a great day.
    Dave

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    • Glyn

      @Dave T … I couldn’t agree with you more about this mate. Having a connection and building a relationship with a wedding client, in fact any client is just so important if the photos are to ‘work’. Derek and Dorothy are such lovely people and we do all get on so well and for your info mate the day went really well 🙂

      Cheers,
      Glyn

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  20. Vince

    Hey,

    I was lucky enough to work alongside Glyn yesterday at Derek and Dorothy’s big day.

    All I can say is what wonderful people they are, it was a pleasure to shoot there wedding.

    A big thank you to Glyn for the opportunity to work with him on this, but most of all a big thank you to all involved for being so helpful and kind.

    I would like to wish Derek and Dorothy all the best in the future.

    Cheers

    Vince Callaghan

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  21. kerri day

    nice pictures of u grandad good luck :)xxx

    Reply

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